Hi, my name is Mesahary. I have been through a lot of challenges and disappointments in my life and they have helped me to be the woman I am today. I am not a Psychologist or anything like that, I am just an ordinary individual that turned the disappointments into appointments and use my experience to help other people who want to be helped.
Talk about your problems please. The problem with problems is that they do not come one at a time. They generally appear in clusters and sometimes they even have puppies. When one is taken care of, another pops up to take its place, and you wonder to yourself, “What did I do to deserve this?” No, it is not karma, you are not being punished, it is just life.
Combine the economic woes we cannot seem to fix, issues that arise in any normal relationship, plus the unexpected upsets that besiege our day, and it is understandable that there will be times when your mood reaches a low point. There is no quick fix or Pollyanna affirmation that is going to change things. The truth is that you have to move forward until you can make them change.
Perhaps someone else can help, but chances are they cannot take your troubles. A lot of people think that there is a magic bullet that could make it all better. Well it can help you feel good when someone touches you heart, but on the other hand, if you are struggling with personal or professional problems, they can be a burden on a relationship especially if you refuse to talk about it.
Not wanting to look bad in the eyes of the person you admire may keep you from sharing what is on your mind. The truth is that if someone loves you. He or she will help you with your dilemmas. Talking about it can help shed light on how to get through a problem. That is how therapy also works. You may find that brainstorming with another person or even a group will help you find new ideas to help you move forward.
When you know someone has your back, that emotional support can make all the difference. If you have been sitting on stuff to the point where it hurts, it is time to let it out. How you choose to do so it is up to you, but just keeping your pain inside will eventually lead to some kind of meltdown. Learning that it is okay to talk about our problems can feel like a trip to the dentist. You know that the discomfort will stop once you get that tooth fixed, but you do not want to go through the process because it hurts too.
And with emotional issues, you may be embarrassed to share what is really going on with you. That is why it is important to talk with someone who is comforting and nonjudgmental. There will always be problems in our lives, but sometimes we don’t have the capacity to handle them by ourselves. Getting a 360 degree view is impossible when all you see is what is going wrong.
But talking to another person can give you perspective. Just know that you can minimize your problems by discussing them with those you trust. Give your pain a voice, and let someone listen. You will be amazed at how much weight will be lifted off your shoulders. So I am not here to judge I am here to listen and help you by listening and giving you healthy advice. It does not matter what the issues are I will listen to all of your concerns. Please feel free to contact me.