The Scale of the Problem
Dating violence among teenagers is a growing concern across the UK. Recent studies reveal that many adolescents experience control, emotional abuse or even physical aggression in their relationships. These behaviours often begin subtly but can escalate quickly if left unaddressed.
Recognise the Early Red Flags
Violence rarely starts with visible harm. It often begins with controlling behaviours constant texting, jealousy, or demands for passwords. Some teens even accept tracking apps as part of dating. Teach your child that healthy relationships are built on trust, not control. Be alert to sudden mood changes, isolation from friends, or reluctance to talk about a partner.
Keep the Conversation Open
Open dialogue is a powerful tool. Make time for relaxed, non-judgmental conversations about friendships, dating and online interactions. Use everyday moments or current events to raise questions and listen closely. Make it clear they can call you anytime, especially if they feel unsafe or pressured.
Teach Digital Boundaries
Many abusive behaviours now occur online. Teens may be pressured to share images or receive threats using screenshots. Help them understand that consent matters just as much in digital spaces. Encourage them to block anyone who makes them uncomfortable. Reinforce a firm rule: never share or request private images, even in trusted relationships.
Use School and Community Support
Schools now include lessons on healthy relationships, consent, and coercion. Talk to your teen’s teachers to understand how these topics are covered. Many communities offer additional workshops, counselling or peer support services. Encourage your teen to speak with someone they trust if they ever feel unsure or threatened.
Know When to Step In
If you suspect abuse, act quickly. Keep notes of concerning behaviour. Speak with your teen calmly and without blame. If necessary, involve the school’s safeguarding team or report the situation to the police. Even if legal definitions don’t fully apply due to age, support and intervention are still available.
Push for Policy Change
Change must go beyond the home. Support national efforts to improve relationship education, enforce digital safety laws, and ensure early intervention. Speak up at school meetings, write to your MP and join parent-led campaigns. Raising awareness can shape safer environments for every young person.
A Collective Commitment
Protecting your teen from dating violence is not a one-time act. It’s an ongoing effort involving open communication, education, and community support. With the right tools, your teen can recognise unhealthy behaviour, set boundaries and seek help when needed. Together, we can create a culture where all young people feel safe, respected and empowered in their relationships.